“When to say “Will you marry me?” & “Yes! I’ll marry you!”

Whenever a person reached the age wherein they start to have their crushes. They tend to dwell on the more superficial qualities to their opposite sex. Such as popularity, good-looking, friendly and funny. But, there are also some who based their attraction on the inner qualities of a person such as being smart, talented etc. As the age changes, their preference towards their opposite sex also change rapidly. Since they already have the so called “power of perception” wherein they tend to be aware of qualities of their perspective mate such as spiritually-minded, trustworthy, morally-upright & goal oriented. They begin to have their “ideal man/woman”.



But, there are also some, who do not have the ideal man/woman preference as long as they get along well with each other. In this phase/stage of growth we often look beyond the superficial traits to answer the question “Is he/she is the one I’m looking for?”.

Before you jump into “yes” answer. It is a must for you to know yourself better. Since it would be easier for you to know the kind of person you want to be with you for the rest of your life. Knowing yourself is not an easy task, coz you need to evaluate yourself regarding your mates’ preference. What His/her attitude, hobbies, qualities, spiritual values and other factors that matters to you most.



What if you think you’ve found that person? Will you jump into conclusion that “he/she is the one your looking for?”. Such a bad idea! You don’t need to rush things. Try your best to know the person as well. His/her attitude and weaknesses, does she have the qualities that you are looking for in a mate? What happened when you disagree? Does he/she try to hurt you? Ouch! It’s a bad sign. Does he/she use abusive speech? Hmp! Another bad sign. This are only a few questions that are essential when you are about to examine inner qualities of your prospective partner.

Yes! Indeed, finding a mate is much more a difficult issue compared when you go shopping. Whenever you shop, you just take into consideration the products design, color, style & the signature. But, its different when you look for a mate. Instead, you consider the attributes that you have in common.

As time goes along, more than a few members of the opposite sex may catch your eye. But not just anyone will do. After all, you want someone you’ll be comfortable with. Someone who truly fits your personality & your goals. If you think you’ve found that special someone w/ qualities you’ve been looking for in a mate. Then don’t hesitate to ask this nerve-wrecking question of “Will you marry me?” & girls don’t hesitate to say “Yes! I’ll marry you” if you think he has the qualities you’ve been looking for.